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Brian D The Durnien Family

They never gave up on him no matter what happened. It was the most terrifying time of my life, but those nurses kept our entire family going.

It might be difficult to find someone who celebrated the 50th anniversary of MMC’s milestone more than 14-year-old Brian Durnien and his family. Brian was due to be born in August 2004 “but he had other plans,” says his mother, Lori, a preschool teacher and Long Branch resident. She and her husband, Paul, a building code enforcer, already had two sons (Matthew, now 19, and Christopher, now 17) when in April of that year, Lori felt ill and drove herself to the hospital. Little did she know at the time that she was, in fact, in full labor.

She still has the parking ticket from that day, which shows she pulled her car into the lot at 7:14 a.m. Brian was born exactly three hours later just 24 weeks’ gestation. He weighed only 1 pound, 13 ounces, and was rushed to the RNC, MMC’s neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). Brian had multiple health problems—the most significant was a heart valve that hadn’t closed, which caused bleeding on his brain. At 4 days old he had his first surgery, to close the valve with a titanium clip. Over 115 days in the hospital, he had numerous transfusions, multiple infections, eating problems and breathing issues.

When he finally left the hospital, Brian weighed 7 pounds and was still on oxygen. But his family brought him back a few months later, when Brian developed swelling in the brain and needed emergency surgery to put a shunt in to drain the fluid. At every step of the journey, the doctors and nurses were nothing but supportive, Lori recalls. “They always encouraged us,” she says. “They never gave up on him no matter what happened. It was the most terrifying time of my life, but those nurses kept our entire family going, including his two older brothers. Every Sunday was big brother day, and they were ready. If Brian had a bad day, they never let it get us down. They were always positive.”

Brian had more health problems over the years and developed cerebral palsy as a result of the bleeding on his brain. But today he is a freshman at Red Bank Catholic High School. “His physical limitations aggravate him,” his mom admits. But he’s also stubborn and willing to try anything, she adds. “The nurses and doctors at Monmouth said, ‘Whatever you expect from him he will do. If you work with him he will do it.’”

They were right, she says. And she thanks them for that, and more. “Everything they did was done because they loved him so much and treated him like their own,” Lori says. “They were his mothers when I couldn’t be there.”